I dag er den internasjonale narsissisme-dagen, hvor vi minnes alle ofre av covert- og overt-narsissister, eller kombinasjoner av disse. Selv har jeg innsett at jeg er offer for begge to, hvor en overt-hana tok fra meg fabrikken min, og ei overt-høne har torturert meg og min familie til døde i lommehullet vårt. Men på mirakuløst vis grep gudene inn da de så det ikke lenger var håp, samt at de nok var møkka lei spillet hennes, og løftet oss ut av vårt lommehull.
Alt vi ba om var å få leve i en hyggelig lommekrok, men det at vi ydmyket oss selv til å be om hjelp ble oppfattet som en krenkelse, og vi ble ofre for hennes evige raseri. Lommekroken vår ville vi selvsagt aldri fått, dette ville i så fall vært et like stort under som at Djevelen skulle finne på å lage en flik av Paradis i Helvete. Nei, vi skulle råtne vekk i lommehullet vårt med henne som vår fangevokter!
Vi fikk våre arr, fysiske så vel som psykiske. Men nå skal vi vekk, noe vi burde vært for flere år siden, så får vi tro arrene kan regenerere med tiden. En trøst er det allikevel at så mange er i samme båt. Så la oss stå sammen og se framover nå på den internasjonale narsissisme-dagen!
World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) occurs on June 1st every year. Established in 2016, WNAAD is a growing global movement dedicated to raising the profile of narcissistic abuse, providing public pathology education, resources for survivors, and effect policy change. WNAAD is an international event that is recognized worldwide.
People with NPD and ASPD are most damaging to others because they lack the ability to empathize and are interpersonally exploitative. They may desire intimate relationships but they lack the capacity for healthy, reciprocal relationships. They vacillate between a deep desire for connection and intimacy and fear of abandonment and rejection. They have unrealistic expectations and high standards of love, nurturing and loyalty from others but do not hold themselves to the same standards.
They have impaired insight into themselves and others but paradoxically can have a keen ability to sniff out the vulnerabilities of others. Their internal emotional world is unstable and unpredictable, sometimes making them appear as if they have Bipolar disorder. Their sense of self is fragile and labile. They alternate between self-loathing and grandiosity, and require the validation and affirmation of others to help regulate their sense of self. Although, they are dependent on others for this type of internal regulation, they have an innate drive for dominance and superiority. Since they lack the capacity for self-reflection and introspection necessary for taking accountability for their actions, they regularly blame others and the world for their failures or anything that is wrong in their life.
People with cluster B are either unconcerned or unaware of their impact on others. If they are cooperative, it is usually to serve their personal agenda. Any chance of a peaceful co-existence is usually thwarted due to their misattribution of negative intentions by others. They are highly threatened by opposing perspectives and viewpoints. A contrary point of view can often incite them into responding with a disproportionate and confusing amount of anger and confrontation or withdrawing completely. Their sense of entitlement manifests in regularly violating the boundaries of others. This often leads to playing the role of the innocent victim and blaming others and the world for their failures and everything that is wrong in their lives.
- Prone to boredom
- Novelty/thrill seeking behavior
- Hyper-sexuality/deviant sexuality
- Initially very charming
- Overlapping relationships to fend off feelings of loneliness, boredom and abandonment fears
- Hypocritical, rules apply to others not themselves
- Highly critical of others
- Hypersensitive to criticism
- Lead parasitic lifestyles
- Shallow emotions but compensate by the ability to mimic the emotions of others
- Have a “my way or the highway” attitude
- May have substance abuse issues/and other addictionsRelationships with people with people with NPD and ASPD can be very exhausting. The relationships are often imbalanced and not reciprocal. They tend to be so self-focused that they lack the ability to empathize with the needs and desires of others. Their self-centeredness blinds them from being able to see others as separate from themselves. Narcissists tend to view their partners in terms of how they fill their needs (or fail to fill their needs). Their partners and children are only valued in terms of how well they meet their needs or further their agenda.